I just do not know what to say
Have you ever been in a situation where you really do not know what to say?
No way you have never ever been into such a situation. In fact there is no person, who has never had such a moment. Usually this happens under the influence of some very emotional moment. Or in a moment of deep confusion when holding a very personal or extremely important for you conversation.
In the online conversation this should happen more rarely. Since in the most cases when communicating via Internet we are using different nicknames and we are hiding behind different roles. This gives us the opportunity to be more relaxed and to have no inhibitions. But there are also some cases, where the people develop very deep and strong relations by means of the online meetings. Very often there are online communities created and there just as in our own everyday life it is very important how you communicate with the people and what impressions do you leave in them over yourself.
With some people the temporarily difficult expression could be followed by a whole series of such events, which could be shown also in normal and everyday conversations. Usually the much longer this sequence lasts, the more stronger the difficulty for calm expression gets. The resulting pauses where we hardly find any words in order to express ourselves, become much longer and they appear much often. A person start loosing much more confidence in his/her own abilities, in his/her way of thinking and in his/her behaviour and expression means.
How should we cope with this?
In fact we should not forget about the fact, that the conversation with other people is an entertainment which help us to do the following: to get rid of the boredom, to entertain ourselves with new contacts, to become more social, to share and think again of the things we have gone through etc.
Of course, as it became clear in the very beginning we should never forget, that this is something normal and it could happen to everybody in a particular moment. And if you start feeling that these moments happen more often, you should not lessen the communications. You should do just the opposite. You should communicate more and with different persons- Internet provides you with such an opportunity! You should try to think about the moment when this has happened. You should realize what has made this particular moment happen. Have you not been prepared on the topic or has this been surprising for you taking into consideration the person who you have talked to. Have you just been overexcited from the conversation with that person and the results of it etc. The important thing is after you understand what has lead you to this unwanted pause to try learning how to prepare yourself in a better way for such a moment. To have a ready answer for a question which could put you in such a situation.
After you prepare yourself for the next such moment of inconvenience and difficulty with the communication. You should try to provoke the same situation with the same person and to cope with the moment. And if this is too painful for you and you don’t want to go back to it. You should prepare some learned in advance phrases for getting out of such situation and taking the conversation away into another direction. And the most important! Select your topics and partners, who entertain you and make you feel better. The life is still too good and too short to pay attention to the negative emotions. Take care to look for and to detach the positive things.
