Security advice for online dating
Online dating or Internet dating has been enjoying a very high popularity lately. However, despite the numerous advantages that it offers, in time abuse has increased, mainly due to its disadvantages. Online dating is fun and convenient, but you still should be very careful when speaking with people you do not know well. Here are some tips, following which could be useful to you and increase your security while you are dating online.
Start slowly. When you date on the Internet, be careful with people who look too good to be true. Start communicating only through e-mail. Watch carefully for any unusual behavior or contradictions. In other words read between the lines as far as possible. It is possible that the person with whom you are communicating is not the one who he/she seems to be. Trust your instincts. If something makes you feel uncomfortable pull back for the sake of your own peace of mind and security.
Keep your anonymity. Never include your family name, your personal e-mail address, your personal web site or Internet address, home address, work place or any other identifiable information in your profile or the first e-mails that you exchange with other users of the online dating service. Make sure that the signature of your e-mails is turned off or does not include any personally identifiable information, in case that you are communicating with someone through your personal e-mail. Stop communicating with people who press you for such information or try to mislead you to disclose such information in any way. Take as much time as you need to feel comfortable with somebody, before you provide some personal information about yourself. Ask questions and strive to get satisfactory answers. Again – trust your instincts, be selective and do not rush.
Be patient and trust your feelings. Careful and well thought out decisions usually lead to better results when dating and this is true for online dating as well. Do not trust anyone, who has not earned your trust. Every candidate should earn your confidence gradually, showing honesty and sincerity. It is your right to spend as much time as you need to find the person who deserves your trust and you should always be very careful. If you think that somebody is lying, this is usually so and you should react accordingly. Try somebody else who eventually deserves your trust. Keep your romantic spirit within reasonable limits. Do not fall in love in your own notion of somebody. Do not rush into intimacy, even if this is just online intimacy.
Ask for a picture. The picture can give you a good idea about the appearance of the person with whom you are communicating, which could help you judge this person correctly. In fact it would be best to see several different photos of the same person in different circumstances: informal, formal, at home, outside. If your requests for a picture are constantly being declined with various excuses, it is quite possible that this person is hiding something. The scanning of a photo is not an expensive service, this is why the possible excuses, why this has not been done are very few.